Well, The IEP meeting will be sometime before Thanksgiving. On the good side, The School Psych did ask if we wanted the gifted Coordinator to be invited. She also said that he appears to her after her observations to be a gifted child in a regular classroom.
Now I need to put my nose to the grindstone and get my list of wants together.
So far, I want to ask for
1. accelleration in math - Computer /online programming to allow DS to progress in math without holding him back for the dysgraphia.
2. Keyboarding for all assignments requiring writing of more 15 sentences
3. Handwriting without tears to build up his handwriting.
4. 2x per year evaluations and meetings to make sure that the IEP is working for him at that time.
5. Allow DS to take out books from the library for all grade levels. (currently he can't take out books off the 4th and 5th grade shelves)
6. Participation in gifted pull out (1 day out of every 6) as long as it does not require him to complete all class assignments as homework. (regular assigned homework is fine)

I think his biggest needs are work on core muscle control and a challenging academic curriculum. Emotionally, other than the morning and after school outbursts he seems to be doing ok. I think the therapy he's been in and the change in schools really has helped with that. Personally, I'd like to see if an appropriate academic fit resolves most of the ADHD/BiPolar behaviors before going to any sort of medication.

Other suggestions?