Thanks Edwin. Yes, during the meeting I was trying to point out that we see their perspective on things and in a lot of cases there is merit there. In some cases we don't agree 100% and that's okay. In other cases where we got comments like "he is working at grade level" we were completely okay with that because we believe then there is a good match.
No one at the meeting was intentionally being nefarious. I think you hit it on the head when most people are used to dealing with +/- 1 standard deviation of IQ (and to a extent, they are used to making accommodations for students at the lower end).
All good feedback guys, thanks. Although it sometimes feels like we're not making a lot of progress, it's nice to hear that relatively speaking we're doing pretty gosh darn well.

JB