Well, they become more managable because we become more adept at managing how we react to them and also how we manage the people who say them. Am I interpreting what you said correctly, Dottie?
You did the right thing when you firmly and calmly handled the number sense issue. I think, honestly, most people crumble a little when they face a meeting that goes this way. Sometimes I wonder if it boils down to parents subconsciously needed validation from THE SCHOOL that their child is *that smart*; frankly that's a fatal flaw.
IQ tests are valid and if you've got one from a reputable tester/expert it's something the school needs to look at and consider.
Most teachers have seen the kid with the high iq who isn't doing anything special by jr. high. This is one of the factors when a teacher just blatantly refutes the IQ testing. They mistakenly assume that the test is faulty. I honestly think it's a lot harder to consistently perform above your abilities than below your abilitites.
The bottom line is there are a variety of reasons why you'll hit resistance when seeking more accomodations. Try and figure out what the real reasons are here, decide if you really want to go after it, if so then be confident-keep movin-and don't look back.
I really really do think you two are doing a great job.
Oh and Dottie, does that person realize that your DS most likely only graduate from high school at 16 if you artificially slow down his learning rate?!?!
