Thanks, all! I got a few books and articles. The book that y DS8 seems to like the most is What To Do When Good Enough Is Not Good Enough. But more than the books, he liked it when I told him about myself--I'm also quite a perfectionist, I admitted it, told him I did miss opportunities because of this and I have been trying to change. I think he felt more comfortable knowing that this is common--even happens to mom, and this can be worked out.