Yeah, but DS7, DH and I just really aren't like that. Stuff tends to roll off us. We can just reason our way out of stress, fear...all that bad stuff. It took me a long time to understand why people can't just stop themselves from freaking out over things that aren't really dangerous.
Even my one borderline phobia--crushing crowds--is actually a pretty logical thing for me to fear. I'm under 5'3". Crushing crowds can do me real damage very quickly! Add in my introverted nature and my need for personal space, and it all makes perfect sense in its own weird way. I don't think there's anything else I'm really truly afraid of in any sort of extreme sense.
I don't mean that DS7, DH and I never get upset. But we don't tend to spiral out of control with irrational fears of things that aren't really problematic. And we tend to confront our fears head-on. DH was afraid of heights when he was younger...so he went skydiving! He loved it! Problem solved.
Now, DS4 is a whole different ball of wax! He's scared of the basement, his room, the dark, scary stories, a mask my husband has...You name it, he's scared of it. Logic doesn't help. Confronting the fear doesn't help. He has a totally different personality type, and he is a classic example of an extremely sensitive kid!
I just think personality has a lot to do with it. That's all I'm saying.
