Hello Sharona,
I am trying to remember back to 3.5 as my girls are now a little older. I noticed you mention that she watches tv while you cook dinner but that you are trying to turn the tv off more. Is there enough room in your kitchen to carve out some space for a small table and chair for your DD? You could set her up with play doh, cookie cutter, and other small cooking utensils so she can "play cook" along with Mommy. My DD's still, even at 5 and 7, will play with Play Doh for close to an hour at a stretch! You can make your own so you don't have to worry if she eats a bite while your busy is at the stove :-) Also crayons and paper at the little table might help. You could talk to her giving instruction on what to write and draw while you cook. Also try taking some stories on tape out of the library. You can set up a a player in the kitchen and you and your DD can hear a nice story while dinner is prepared. Good luck,
Play Doh Recipe
http://www.teachnet.com/lesson/art/playdough061699.html
