Thanks for the input. This school is strict about practicing on real pianos. No electronic pianos etc. I just have to set limits with this guy. He is so excited about having her as a pupil or something. But I will tell him no recital. DH thinks it would be good for her. My gut, and I have a better gut, is no.

She is highly competitive and perfectionist already, don't need to feed that, there will be other food for it as she grows.

Ren