And he really has never been a kid who likes crafts. I'm not sure if there would be another preschool that would fit (we don't have a lot of choices).
DS hated crafts and really still does. His preschool had centers and different kids worked on different things, but, except for a few mandatory projects, most things were chosen by the kids. I remember watching other kids walk out with beautiful elaborate craft projects, but all I have from those years are a couple hand-turkeys from thanksgiving and an Easter poster we have nicknamed "the bloody bunny" --a cut-out of a cute white bunny with a red splatter at it's heart. It probably took him all of 10 seconds to "decorate" that poor ill-fated creature.
I am quite sure that DS spent most of his time on educational computer games, reading books, and playing complex imagination games with the other kids.
What made the preschool experience so wonderful for DS was that there were almost always options for the kids; they were not locked in to an activity. I think when kids are given choices, they are much less likely to have that anti-authority attitude. For DS's music practice, his teacher had him roll a multi-sided die to see how many times he had to do something. That took the teacher out of the authority position. It was the die that made the choice, not the teacher or the student.
