I guess I should add that many HG kids do go through but it is not a good thing; they leave angry and demoralized because their needs were not met. I think we know a lot of very bright kids for whom school was a failure.
So I would add that one of the things we are always doing with our DS is monitoring. When we had DS tested a few years ago, his pscyh told us to watch for any breaks in his sunny disposition and then address it immediately. The psych said he was the happiest HG kid he had ever seen and that he would hate to see him lose his spark. We take that warning very seriously. We would not keep him at grade level just to make a point.
