Hi Katelyn'sMom!
I'm ebeth, and I just wanted to say that we have a son who is 8 years old and in the public school system. Although it is not perfect and we do still have some battles to wage, we are fairly pleased with how accommodating they have been. He has be accelerated by one grade to 4th currently, and he goes up to 7th grade for Science. We are currently "discussing" what to do for him for math with the school. He is also a summer birthday and is a wiggly little boy in a class with kids who are on average two years older than him and many inches and pounds bigger than him. So it really depends on the individual school and how the teachers and principle feel about it. I would seriously start looking to see if your school has a formal grade acceleration policy, particularly on a web site.
And as to the ADHD or aspergers' questions, there is a wonderful book by James Webb called Misdiagnosis. I will post a link to Amazon here, but I am a big fan of the local library!!
It is a great book for comparing the traits of a highly gifted child with those of a child suffering from ADHD, aspergers', or many other issues. He makes the point that you can be both gifted and have ADHD, but that you need to take the giftedness into account whenever making a diagnosis. I don't know if helps or not. We have had well meaning teacher and principles make suggestions for ADHD. Funny thing is, after those grade skips, the symptoms seemed to disappear!
http://www.amazon.com/Misdiagnosis-...mp;s=books&qid=1224880408&sr=1-1
