True. But I suspect your child is the exception rather than the rule on this one, acs. My son was more self-aware and self-confident than virtually any other kid I knew at age 6, but he was not ready to self-advocate. Certainly his teacher wasn't ready to hear him when he made moves to do so. If he wasn't ready, I doubt that very many kids are.
I agree--and stated!--that I wouldn't rule out self-advocacy. I certainly think it's great if a child can do it. You know how strongly I believe that all kids are different, and I also agree that a good school situation might make it possible. (Though in a good situation, presumably the child wouldn't need to advocate for harder work...)
But I stand by my statement that I wouldn't make it a goal for a 6yo to self-advocate. It would have to be one of those things that just happened, I think. If the child felt comfortable doing it, then great! But I really think that aiming for that is setting the bar high in a situation where the risks are too high.
FWIW...
