Well, guess I wont get my hopes up too much! thanks for the perspectives. I am always amazed by how off-track a good idea can be taken !!
I did manage to dig up the sheet on this from our stack of school stuff. The phrase they use is diferentiated services plan. And they state one will be provided each semester! So unless they plan to use it for what did happen, I would hope to see it pretty soon. Could be one of those many school things that the parents never get to see. frown

(Kriston - dont they know the word plan implies future use?!?)

I do hope there is some kind of parents group or support group. I think that would be really helpful for me and ds. I am sure I would be totally pulling my hair out without the ideas and camaraderie from this forum!! Thanks all smile