Crisc, you are in really tough situation. If the problems started when he went to school then the problem is most likely school. I would worry that consulting gets you only that far. What needs to be fixed is the school situation and hopefully everything else will fall in place. Of course, I have NO idea how to make the school a better place for him.
JBDad, I think it's really hard to get a good match for HG+ in the early years. DS6 is not in PS simply because I just couldn't see how they could make it work even if they really, really tried. They would have to skip him 2 years and put him with 8 and soon 9 year olds (noway he could make it socially) and still accelerate him in math. BTW I just saw what a son of a friend of mine does in the 2nd grade. They are learning how to do 8+7. Ouch.
DS6 was always a perfectionist, but a year ago when he started K in Montessori it really hit big time. Things were quite bad here. Fortunately it has been much, much better since. We still run into problems and it may never go completely away but it's nowhere close to where we were last fall. Last week he got only 10 out 12 questions on his CyberEd test correct (he missed one and pressed a wrong button once) and he was happy about it. I was ready to throw a party!
