Hmmm... This is an interesting topic, but I can't say much about it firsthand. I'm kind of a social dunce myself. I tend to say the wrong thing, so I try to just stick to the facts. Sometimes, even that gets me in trouble!
DD seems to make friends much more easily than I did at her age. I remember being afraid of the other kids because they seemed totally unpredictable. Adults were much easier for me to be around. I see more of me in DS. Once, at a playdate when he was about 2, he came up to me and said, "What does that boy want?" He had no idea how to interact with the other child.
I have noticed a girl a DD's school who seems to be a gifted leader. Everyone just gravitates toward her--kids and adults. Everyone seems to know her. I can't put my finger on what it is, but she definitely has charisma (or something!)
