Jojo,
Wonderful update! My kids thrive better with routines even though I am not that organized by nature. I have a DD9 and DS3. I feel like you do that when I work with DD, I need to find things to keep DS engaged and occupied. I usually have him pick out an educational DVD at the library and I have some "school work" type books for him that we only bring out during quiet time. He loves to trace letters, do simple mazes or even do puzzles especially when they are off limits otherwise. We also have a Leapster with phonics and simple math games that he plays (with headphones) when DD does her homework. I don't like video games in general, but the educational ones keep learning fun. I hope any of these ideas help you.
Jen
