I have tutored various students of many ages before, though I do not have kids.

As for being emotionally mature because they excel academically - there is some merit to this.

For example, with higher IQ, those people are less likely to show symptoms of ADHD. And when they do have it, it is less severe. This is likely due to their intellect compensating for these symptoms.



According to various studies, IQ correlates with decent behavior. This is why nowadays, many psychiatrists take into account IQ when diagnosing people with disorders. The higher IQ, the more compensation, thus milder behaviors can count as disordered.

I have seen various cases of students like this that turned out to be 2e. "On the go like a motor" (ADHD stereotypical symptom) presenting as being very studious and productive, has been seen sometimes in my students.

To me, the intellectual growth comes first, as without the intellectual growth, how would they be emotionally satisfied? Many will act out over this.

I would rule out potential neurodivergencies, or physical/mental health issues first. But there are many approaches - for example delayed gratification, meditation, etc.