Yup, there's even a term we use for what you're going through: "gifted denial." JBDad had a bad case, but he's getting over it, as am I. Even Dottie still has bouts of it from time to time. I think Dazey's done pretty well lately, at least I haven't seen too much denial. At any rate, it's a common affliction around here.
If your child is operating 2-3 grades above level and you're not drilling the heck out of the kid in his spare time (aka "hothousing"), then you almost certainly have a GT kid. I can't say what LOG (level of GTness), but I feel pretty confident in saying that he's GT. And yes, he's going to need more than what the ND (normally developing) child is going to need in the classroom.
It sounds like you should probably be doing some reading if you aren't on that already. That's where I started when I was where you are. Check out the articles on the Davidson website--use the link "Find a Resource" on the lefthand side of this page. We can recommend some books, too, if you would like recs.
You can always supplement schoolwork with work at home, but I would still strongly recommend testing. It gives you an idea about just how GT your child is, shows you areas of strength that you didn't even know about and/or shows you weaknesses or learning preferences that might change the approach that you and the school take when working with him. If nothing else, it's hard to stay in GT denial when a trained professional hands you a sheet with numbers on it (though some of us do manage it! LOL!).
This is a very helpful forum. I'm glad you found us! It was invaluable to me last year, when I was where you are now. If we can help, just say so!
