Thanks for all the support and thoughtful replies.
We live in a very rural area and small town within California. How do I go about finding a reliable person to test him? Should I ask the GATE coordinator at school if she knows of anyone? I am of the mindset that I am going to need to talk with her anyway to make sure the test we use is different then the one they use? Is that correct? I am seriously overwhelmed. To be honest I am not sure I want the school knowing that I want him tested. I do not want to be one of "those moms" yet. When and if the time comes fine but for now I would like to stay under the radar and only have his teacher think that of me.
Did you talk with your kids about what was happening? I asked a gifted acquaintance about his experiences and after sharing with me, he said the best course of action for my son is the one where he feels in control. I asked ds if he would like to take a test (he likes tests, he even makes me tests to take) and he said yes. But he gets uncomfortable when I ask if he would like to go into the next grade or if he would like the teacher to let him go into another class for work. He tells me stop and changes the subject or runs to play something away from me.
