Thanks for the feedback.
Yes, we are thinking about asking for SSA in math.
Good idea on re-framing. Didn't even realize that I was using that language... some of it may have come through in the communication with the school district so far... Great advice on communicating by focusing what the child. We are acting on what he wants, but the way we communicate goes a long way.
Regarding middle school classes - we would prefer that he participate in a class (even though it may be only mildly challenging) for the social interaction, instead of the more rigorous AOPS program. If he can get challenged in school, we would remove math from after school to give him more free time to do whatever he wants. Right now we feel that we have to enrich after school.
