In terms of the meds, it's not hard to do a trial of stimulants and if you don't notice an improvement, stop them and address the other issues. Some kids (like my DD) feel really bad about themselves when they cannot focus, get things done, etc. so the meds help in that way. A lot of people w/ ADHD also have anxiety and depression. I'm not a doctor so if she/he has a valid reason for not wanting to medicate the ADHD at this point, then go w/ whatever he/she says.