All good, sound advice so far.
By all means you could look at state standards and/or Common Core. I found Rebecca Rupp's book, Home Learning Year by Year (
https://www.amazon.com/Home-Learnin...pell&keywords=home+learning+year+by+year) - helpful (though somewhat dated for resources) on what neurotypical children cover each year for each subject. You can sometimes find reading lists, syllabuses, and other curriculum information by googling various private or boarding schools.
Organizational/ structure - there's stuff on pinterest and elsewhere in terms of charts, logs, etc. Cindy West's book, Homeschooling Gifted and Advanced Learners (
https://www.amazon.com/Homeschoolin...meschooling+gifted+and+advanced+learners) has some ways to document project-learning or other forms of learning that are not as so easy to document. So far, I've been using spreadsheets or Google docs to document things, and even have some backup printed copies.
I've been homeschooling my ds10 now since he was 6.5-yrs-old and melted at the end kindergarten at private school #2. This year, however, he's had motivation issues due to immaturity, us moving, etc. One of my goals has been to get my ds to be more self-motivated and independent and less reliant upon me -- but unfortunately I've not come across a magic formula to solve this puzzle yet!
Another thought - when you start homeschooling or move to another area to homeschool (like we've recently done), it's a good idea to find out what is available in your area or online for free vs. what can be done for minimal cost or what costs a lot of money -- in terms of academics and non-academics. Better to take the time and survey what your options are. Find out what's available through your local library, local/regional museums, and universities too.
Find out what local or regional homeschooling groups are in your area. You may have plenty on your doorstep. Or you may have to look over a wide geographic area. This is going to vary depending on where you live. However, after recently moving, I can say that some areas or groups may be more lesson happy so to speak while others may be less structured. Your child may excel in lesson activities or structured homeschooling groups. Alternatively, you may have a child who needs drop-in activities and considerably less structured groups.
Think of this in terms of academics and non-academics. You may or may not have an easier time for one versus another, but ideally you'll find something either in terms of academics and/or non-academics with other homeschoolers (with preferably a few gifted kids).
Today there is an endless stream of online courses, it seems. Many of the major colleges and universities have MOOCs (massive open online courses) or equivalent for free or nominal cost. These may be an option for you and better quality in terms of a local tutor or online course elsewhere.
If you need inspiration or convincing for homeschooling, take a look at work by John Holt, John Gatto, or Sandra Dodd for a start.
When you start looking around and seeing what options are available in your area, include your dd. I think once she feels she has more control over her academic and non-academic life then she'll start to feel better and less resistant. You may have to sit down and go through things slowly if she overwhelms by open-ended options as you'll have with homeschooling. If this is the case, then you may want to temporarily impose some limits if it feels too open-ended so your dd will feel more in control of herself. With homeschooling, the world is your oyster though.
