BrownTiger, with all due respect, I think you should consider whether posting about how your "DW went with an attitude" on a public message board is an appropriate way of dealing with your marital differences about your daughter's education.
Were you at the meeting? I couldn't tell whether your post is your reinterpretation of her account of it, or you were there too.
When my husband and I do not agree about education for our kids, we have a policy that each will review any email or other communication that the other is thinking of sending to the school, so that we do not ask for contradictory things or give contradictory information.
