No they don't get to just remove these things from the IEP. His needs don't disappear just because the district doesn't have the right staff to meet his needs. As DeeDee has told me before "need drives services not the availability of providers." This is a *very* important point and many districts don't think parents understand it so they take advantage.
This is when you request an Independent Educational Evaluation (IEE). If the need is real and documented they have to meet it. Like the awful principal I referenced above some districts just work to wear you down so you move, place in private or choose to homeschool. All are fine options for them because it gets them off the hook. If you are able to meet his needs yourself then homeschooling could be a good option. I was told by my district that there would be no way a private family could afford to provide all the services my DD would need. It takes a strong constitution to keep battling in the face of what seems to be intentional incompetence. Your district seems to be masterful at that...
Hang in there!
