Forrester, even if the title doesn't seem to describe your child, I would recommend that you take a look at The Explosive Child, by Ross Greene. You can read the book, or you can get 80% of the way there by watching the videos at http://livesinthebalance.org/walking-tour-parents . Specifically, the solutions he suggests to "getting stuck," and of looking at your kid as having lagging skills in that area, really changed (for the better) the way we parent.