You have my sympathies Tigerle. When we started this whole adventure DH and I had different views. DH really wanted the kids in the neighborhood school, having friends that they could walk or ride their bike to on weekends and being more a part of our community. I was on board with that until it became obvious to me that DS was shutting down and hating it.
We quickly realized that we each came into this with completely different sets of baggage. We had VERY different school experiences and ways of coping with being gifted. The things that he looks back on and thinks - I wish that this would have been different are very different than what my wish list is/was. I also found it very hard to separate my own baggage and issues from what is actually going on in the moment with our kids. There were a few long nights and bottles of wine that went into the many discussions on this topic.
DH eventually came around and DS now goes across town to a congregated class. We're in the process of applying to move DD there next year. DS has absolutely thrived there and any reservations that DH had have completely gone away. Even with all of that behind us there was still much debate about what to do with DD but we're going to try it and see (hopefully she gets accepted...).
I will also say that the first couple months were rough. DS doesn't like change and this was a biggie. Eventually he settled in and now he loves it and would never go back.
Good luck!
