Great discussion so far. It's really enlightening and notable that even within this group that there is a debate about the subject.
I read the above article which was another reason I posted my question. Also, we live in an area with many families from India and China. I am surrounded by friends (who grew up in Asia) whose kids study study study because mom and dad are breathing down their necks... I sometimes feel like a slacker mom. I absolutely do not push my kids. They do it to themselves with my DH and I trying to work on the perfectionist bent they have (hear the big sigh??). My kids get A's just for sneezing so I'm really not worried about grades, just about that moment in college or an internship when they MAY realize they aren't prepared.
