Thank you both for your responses. We don't have school today thanks to the big snow storm so I talked a bit with DD this morning and asked her some more questions. She absolutely did not want to discuss it again ("I already answered your question once, and I don't wish to talk about it!"), but it sounds like both girls are really on edge. My DD reports that the other girl claims DD kicked her months ago (DD says she doesn't think she did), and DD states the girl did indeed try to push her down the stairs, and told DD "Well, you deserved it." Other than that I got very little new information. I will write my email carefully as you all recommend. The were put at the same table in one class which I think is not the best idea.
DD has never ever gotten in trouble at school, BTW. She always received rewards for behavior. I admit this new situation worries me.
