Keep in mind that girls are very cliquish starting around fourth grade. To try to "break in" may be more difficult in a smaller school. Getting to know the other girls' mothers could help give you some insight about what the girls are into and maybe clue your daughter into what's going to gain her access to them.
How does she do with the boys?
The reason I ask is my DS (8) seems to have better luck with the girls in his charter than the boys. He's a sensitive type that isn't into rough-housing and sports so much. The boys also don't want to talk as much about things other than sports.
When he first started in his charter, he tried to hang out with the guys, but there just wasn't a good fit. Some of the girls were bossy and that didn't work for him, either. I told him to spend time with the kids that he had the most in common with; regardless of their sex or age.
Perhaps your DD would get along with some of the boys?
