Our ds was not getting along well with other in ms, similar sounding situation. We decided to homeschool because we just couldn't see putting him through three years of that. We wanted to give the other kids time to mature into more reasonable and kind people. I am not sure what it is about that age, but kids are at just about their worst, when it comes to bullying others and of course not having the experience to handle it well if you are on the receiving end.
"Lessons learned", to my thinking, would be mainly how to feel crappy about oneself, and we figured ds could skip that. He definitely had/has some social issues, but he is a confident guy at this point and I'm not sure that would be the case had he just continued on at the ms.
A lot of people still don't "get" him right off the bat, but since he is older now, he is able to roll with it better. (Going back to hs in the fall, so we'll see, but so far on his soccer team, etc., things have been ok to down right good.)
Sorry to hear about your ds' situation. Crying is NOT a good sign. Definitely take this up with the counselor. Some kind of change is needed. (not necessarily on his part).
I have known one of my relative's children to be bullied in a subtle but targeted manner to the point that she was writing notes about hurting herself. It doesn't make sense to an adult, but for a child this can seem like the end of the world. The school was able to transfer her to another entire set of classes so she was not around the main person doing the bullying. The bully eventually even moved away, but at least there was some immediate interim help.
Last edited by chris1234; 06/16/15 07:11 PM.
