thanks all for some good suggestions and support! I think this is going to be an ongoing issue for us with a lot of trial and error. She's a trooper so I guess at some stage she will just deal with it but I feel bad for her.

ndw: private is not an option until secondary for us ($18000 plus per year)so the local will need to do. As I said the teacher (and school has been great so far but this just might be a tricky thing to sort. Anyway we'll see how it goes...