I would agree with HK - maybe it is time to really examine the reason. If it is fear or something similar - then yes, the kind of process that Dude did with his daughter would be a great option to try.
But I can relate to the whole preferring defense over offense. I was a lot like that, oddly, when it came to soccer (and floor hockey) - where as goalie, I was intensely competitive, but on offense, despite my speed and abilities, I just did not have that same bloodlust for scoring that other kids did. And I am very competitive by nature in some arenas (which DH can attest to - foot races, boat races where it is side by side or against the clock, I am competitive to the point that my teammates would never challenge me unless they were ready to go all out), but I always preferred playing a defensive role like goalie in sports like soccer. Volleyball never bothered me in the same way, because of the net, and I was just not really tall enough to be a blocker anyway.
Oddly, when I first ready of OP, it completely made me think of a snippet of the book The Blind Side about Michael Oher - where when they tried to make him into offensive tackle, he struggled but once they changed to defensive tackle, he was completely different player. And it made me wonder if there is a parallel there with your son. Playing offensively and defensively, to me, are very different in some aspects, and it may be worth seeing if that is what is driving your son.
ETA - correction - it was defensive tackle he struggled with (attacking the offense of the other team), but protecting the QB was where he found his spot.
Last edited by notnafnaf; 12/16/14 08:29 AM.
