You're right, Zen Scanner. I think my real problem is not wanting to explain to DS8 why his younger sister gets more input into these decisions than he does! I may take her to the next acceleration meeting, since she'll make an excellent case for herself, but I'm still waffling on having DS8 in an IEP meeting.

I frequently discover, when I post, that I'm the one with the problem, not my DC. Which does make me a better advocate, albeit an abashed one!