I would encourage you to ask her for her suggestions on what would make her more comfortable. There might be some non-obvious workarounds that are available for a number of the challenges.
My DS2.8 has several sensory challenges and has been able to give me concrete insight into how to work around his sensory defensiveness. For instance, he doesn't like the sound of water pouring into his ears when his hair is washed, but he does like the sound of a wash cloth squishing in his ear. This was rather critical for me to discover if I want him to have clean ears. Similarly, he will let me brush his teeth only if I apply counter-pressure on the outside of his mouth in the area where I'm brushing. Both of these are sensory hacks I never could have conceived of had I not taken DS' heightened sensitivity seriously and involved him in the problem solving process.
HTH!
