Ah KJP we have chickens too.
I like his analogy.
My son was being picked on by at least 1/3 of the class this year because he fidgeted and sucks on his fingers. Of course the more they picked on him, the worse it got. He finally made one friend about 2/3 of the way through the year, and through that one friend he made a few more. So it became 1/3 friendly, 1/3 neutral and 1/3 mean- and I tried to switch it in his head by saying so 2/3 of the class- the majority- either like you or don't dislike you. But he still had to go to class and get picked on, and when his friend stood up for him they started picking on his friend. It was a bad situation.
I also notice that since he is out of school many of the things he does to reduce stress have disappeared as (hopefully) he does not need them.
