Hi Puffin, yes we don't have to send her, originaly she was goiung because I was exhausted from caring for baby and she was bored waiting for him to be fed, put down etc.
After telling DH that she was getting nothing out of going and was actually going backwards he didn't argue with me when I said I was withdrawing her at end of term and may not enrol her anywhere (I wouldn't say he agreed so much as he trusts my judgement and decided not to press the issue)we'll take it a term at a time, he doesn't really want to be reminded about it too much though. I spoke to Montessori who have agreed to keep her spot for 2 weeks. I guess the thought of a full fee paying child was too good to miss.
I went to her kindy on Monday and spoke to the head teacher about the bully issue only to be told there was no issue, so I just pulled her out on the spot. (man did I feel nervous after that!)
So the plan now is 2 weeks off, complete the testing, but also take some advice from the Ed Psych about best learning environment and either enrol her for next term or keep her at home. I agree that I can teach her better - to be honest I WANT to teach her, but I am concerned about her going to school and having trouble settling in - although I think this is more from a societal expectation than any real concern about her social skills. I do suspect she would get enjoyment from some time in a suitable environment.
DH is fine so long as I show she is having fun and making friends as of course she doesn't really need to learn anything before new entrants that she doesn't already know. I do worry about teaching her too much and her having trouble or needing grade skipping but I guess that's a stress for another time!
So now it's up to DD to see how she feels in a few weeks and we'll go from there, I've told her shes a square peg and her current kindy is a round hole, which of course has led to some very funny conversations about finding a triangle kindy etc...
Thanks all for your support - breathing space is what we needed and we have that now.
