All I'm getting from my friends is sheesh it's only preschool, tell her to suck it up and get on with it....
Wow, that comment from others to me is disturbing. Early childhood experiences do matter... All she is learning is that bullies get away with it. Definitely examine whether the current school is one you can work with. We have had to deal with similar issues and have been able to make changes with solutions that worked - and walked away from programs when we realized the administration' actions and policies were unacceptable to us. And it allowed DS to see that we supported him and took his concerns seriously. It matters.
If we had not made the changes for him, he would be so unhappy today that even at 3.5, I feel would have had long term effects, considering how sensitive he is and the fact that he seems to have very, very long memory. He still remembers me catching another kid trying to kick him in the head when he was 2.5 and removing him from the class to his relief. And we did not return to that program (we already told the teacher that we did not trust the other boy for a good reason after a prior incident and they ignored our concern). For DS, that was important to him even at 2 or 3... That he knew we would take action to deal with stuff like bullying or boredom/frustrations.
