St. Paulie,
The mantra for both DH and I is asynchronous development
When one or the other of us is getting ticked off by DS's behaviors, the other usually only has to make eye contact and say AD time to get the other to take a few deep breaths. It did take my husband a while to accept the sensory issues. The biggest help was having both of us sit down and make a list of the things that make us uncomfortable. Then we pulled out the sensory profile list from our son's evaluation and it was sort of an WOW moment. DH realized that he has some sensory issues too that impact how he behaves today. That has made him more tolerant of DS's. I already knew most of mine. But then again, I'm the researcher of the family
I hope using science helps!
