Our situation is somewhat different-- but-- we've addressed this same set of issues from the angle that my child has the right to expect MEDICAL PRIVACY afforded to her unaffected peers. So if classmates don't need to share the private details of things that have passed between themselves and their physicians in order to access the learning environment, then neither should my child.
Once that cat is out of the bag, there's no putting it back in again. I've come down HARD on school staffers for "outing" my child. Even if it's done with the best of intentions, it's not inclusive. At also cannot be ameliorated-- once classmates "know" then they know.
