Follow your gut instinct. Know what your priority is and what you have to achieve. It is different planning for your child rather than for yourself. I was very street smart and felt confident that I could handle bullies. As it seems to happen, I try to give my child a less stressful experience with bullies, building off of my lessons learned from managing them literally my whole life. For my child, I did not 'out' my child. Every time, it became evident and had to be addressed, but it was helpful to me to see how schools handle it and, consistently, the schools (parochial, public, cyber) were not up to speed.
