Crossing my fingers its just the age but she has been so so high intensity from the moment she was born, I'm not convinced it's a phase.
I have accepted that DD's intensity is a permanent character trait but I'm still hoping that her oppositional defiance towards me will mellow out. Otherwise, we would be facing a very difficult future together.
Pick your battles, right?
That was the advice my friend gave me when I emailed her after DD's first huge tantrum around 12 months. She literally turned lobster red head to toe. My DD isn't an explosive child but I still take elements from Dr Ross Greene's approach to increase DD's frustration tolerance and collaborative problem solving skills. On bad days, I chant to myself, "Not a red basket issue. Let it go. Let it go."
