We are in southeastern PA. Most of the good schools - public and private - are located on the Main Line. Housing is pricey but there are some modest homes at a reasonable price. While your DH is willing to travel, these schools are probably about an hour from Reading. However, drive should be reasonably easy taking the Turnpike.

Here is a link to PA schools SAT scores.
http://www.portal.state.pa.us/porta..._system/20965/sat_and_act_scores/1339721

I am quite familiar with the district listed right above Reading. Reading SD SAT scores are abysmal, and you probably wouldn't want to live in Reading proper anyway.

Also, an article on good schools in southeastern PA. First school listed, Masterman, is probably out of the running as it is a selective school that starts in middle school. HS probably has half the number of kids that are in middle school - I think if you aren't in the mix in middle school, probably very tough to get in there. And it is in Philadelphia, so if you don't get in there, you are going to a cruddy public school.

http://www.bizjournals.com/philadelphia/print-edition/2012/12/14/Top_grades.html?page=all

I don't know about partial homeschooling, but homeschoolers in PA are allowed to participate in the local school district's sports and other after school activities.

I really don't think that HG/PG kids are truly challenged at any school, but in the good districts, they will have some other HG/PG kids that they can relate to. Also, there are a ton of great colleges on the Main Line - kids who run out of course work (typically in math) often attend college courses. There are three four-year colleges within a mile of our district HS, so it isn't tough to do.