You definitely are NOT alone.
I got the "your DD is an Aspie" from a variety of people-- most of whom had never actually MET my child-- starting when she was three or four years old.
Yes, she toe-walked. Yes, she has sensory over-excitabilities, yes she is precociously literate, and yes, she can be a little obsessive about her current interests, whatever they happen to be... but (though I can't explain exactly how) she is NOT a person with ASD. Yes, she talks to other people, but it's not that she PINS them and talks
at them, if that makes sense. She is very socially precocious, too, and like your child, was CONSTANTLY talking to me about social dynamics and psychology at a young age. Highly empathetic, she has always had a strong drive to help others. The thing is, if you see her next to her friends who have ASD diagnoses, all the similarities are still there, to be sure... but she is like the Anti-Aspie. Opposites attract and all that. It's hard to explain if you haven't seen it.
I've also heard it all about how my DD is all about
my ego, etc. etc. enmeshment, blah-blah-blah... well, I know what I know and I know that it's NOT a problem. I've quit taking those statements so hard, because my conscience is clear as day. But I'm careful who I talk frankly to about my DD and her accomplishments.
A very warm welcome to you; it sounds like you have landed in the right spot.
