DD is in a gt middle school program and her perception of her self is somewhat warped by her comparison of herself to others on her team. "Mom, I'm not a perfectionist, you should what Suzie does." To which I gently respond that Suzie has nothing going on in her life but school and that DD should think about how her standards and work ethic compare to kids in typical middle school classes.
I've been trying to draw some of these lines as suggested by MoN. We've had fights about saying that it is "good enough" and going to bed. DD seems to get the concept of "enough" when it comes to her musical instrument but not with respect to school. I get retorts along the lines of "you may not care about my grades but I do."
Thanks for the suggestions. I'll need to get those books out from the library. Any other comments are welcome.
