one tip for the parent-teacher meeting, based purely on a horrible personal experience...

they're likely going to focus on social adjustment at this first meeting. if you want to talk about academic concerns (and it sounds like that's appropriate!), you may need to couch it in the feelings your kid is reporting around not learning anything. the teacher may be less likely to instantly label you as a pushy/rushy parent (not that you are!) and actually focus on the problems at hand.

all the best!

Every Sunday it brooded and lay on the floor. Inconveniently close to the drawing-room door.