Right. If we had a nickel for every time one of us has thought "But-- this isn't what I signed on for!!" as a parent...


well, our retirement savings would look a lot more, er, robust than it currently does, let's just say, and we wouldn't be worried about paying for college.

None of us gets the kids we thought we wanted... and only the very luckiest among us get the parents we need.

I stopped worrying so much about the former and focused on mitigating the latter. smile

Schrödinger's cat walks into a bar. And doesn't.