I know (think) that this would be a phone consult type of thing unless you could travel to FL or CO, but I wonder if Patricia Gatto-Walden could help you. Because your dd is so unique I think you may have to seek out someone who has worked with PG kids, and I just have a feeling she might get what is going on and have some good ideas on how to help her with this.

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