We say "I can't hear the moany voice" and refuse to respond to anything said in that tone. Works well enough!

But clearly the real problem here is the perfectionism. I've always done lots of talking about how hard-enough work that you can't do it immediately is necessary, and e.g. asked cheerfully after school whether anything was "interestingly tricky" and sounded disappointed if not, etc. Lately, reading Dweck and discussing it.

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