I understand your reasoning - my dd11 used to be both airborne and contact allergic, and she's had anaphylactic reactions. OTOH, we,let her go to sleepovers when she had the chance too - if we'd kept her home she would have resented it, and for her it was a big part of having a normal childhood.
The truth is she had very few sleepover invitations compared to her younger sister even though she had legions of friends and was extremely popular, and I sadly suspect it is because other parents were scared of being responsible for her with alleriges and/or didn't want to have to bother with doing something different for food. When she was invited, we simply checked with the host family and let them know what was and wasn't ok around her, and made sure they knew how to use an epipen.
The one thing I would absolutely NOT do is use the allergies as an excuse to your dd if the real reason is simply not being comfortable in general with the hosting parents for some other reason. In that case I think it's best just to tell your dd she can't go because you don't know the family well enough.
Best wishes,
polarbear
Last edited by polarbear; 08/06/13 10:18 AM.
