Thanks everyone!
I see there are many similarities with all your children and mine! Feels better knowing your situation isn't a Lone Ranger

. Yes, dysgraphia fits too...and it seems it is a large component of Stealth Dyslexia...if I'm reading Eides stuff correctly.
I didn't list all tests done as so many...but these were conducted:
WISC -IV
W-J III
Beery VMI 6
CTOPP
BASC -2 SDH
BASC -2, PRS-C
executive Functioning
WJ-III Subtests
A few of you mentioned taki g a deeper dive here. I have to say everything is in a clustered range with a few exceptions. I'll list...score/percentile
Letter-word identification 125. 95
Reading Fluency. 120. 91
Calculation. 138. 99
Math Fluency 126. 96
Spelling. 109. 73
Writing fluency. 119. 89
Passage comprehension. 124. 95
Applied Problems. 114. 82
Writing samples 113. 81
Tester comments were that comprehension is greater than fluency...another sign we may be dealing with Stealth .dyslexia or Dysgraphia (my words not hers)
The Berry-Buktenica Test Visual Motor Integration
Standard Scores 98
percentiles 45
category. Average
Age equivalent 5-11
The executive functioning was all in T-score range.
As to waiting for further assessments in my notes I wrote the tester said..."Let DS establish himself with teacher first. See what she thinks." I think she was nervous that the IQ would cause school to expect more than DS can give and then write him off...or ignore PG for the disability...that we aren't sure is there just highly suspect.
For those of you with 2e did your second child have the second e, as well. I have a toddler (almost 3) daughter and I've noticed she not only has zero interest in letters but when introduced to them she is not remembering them, yet she is also highly verbal and logical.