Thank you all for your words of encouragement and advice. I am getting ready for the meeting tomorrow.

I hope I answer all of your questions!

He is not on a 504 though does attend social skills group. He has been in and out of reading support with a para but I think he needs more specialized instruction by a certified teacher(one of my points for this meeting) because they've been instructing him not in comprehension but decoding and vocabulary which are his strong points. (He was hyper-lexic and taught himself to read at age 3.)
I should point out that he now hates to read and cries about reading because he is smart enough to know that he does not understand what he is reading.

The school has been hiding behind the testing stating that 25% is "average" (barely 4th stanine). I kid you not. Not in our high socioeconomic district. It is also discrepant in that all the rest of his testing puts him far above average including reading fluency and vocabulary. His math is way off the charts.

What I want is pretty simple.

I want them to pay for an unbiased full and comprehensive evaluation by a LD/autism specialist (mutually agreed upon) as they seem unable/unwilling to evaluate him and don't know how to educate him.

I also want them to come up with a plan how they are going to educate him. I am very amenable to one of the at home programs if they pay for it.

At this point I do not want him in the special math program. A big part of this is the witch of the teacher. She is biased towards cute, little, quiet girls. She knows it would be more work for her to accept my son into the program. She has said some mean comments to me in the past and I know that if they decide to put him in he would have issues with her next year. In truth, it may be a blessing in disguise that all of this is happening.

If there is additional testing that kept him out of the program that furthers my case because I would bet everything I own that it is the word problems he got wrong, once again proving my point that his reading disability is interfering with his math education. If he is able to complete 8th grade level math but the reading is an issue than he is entitled to accommodations to ensure that he can still access the curriculum.

I tried calling the local advocate who seemed so flighty that I did not at all feel comfortable with her.

Unfortunately I cannot homes school as I am a single parent. Besides we'd probably kill each other in the process. LOL

My plan for tomorrow is to be kind but firm. My objectives are clear, reasonable and achievable.

Thank you all!